Talking about your feelings and problems to someone sympathetic is not only incredibly soothing – it can also enable you to move on in ways that may surprise you.
I have 30 years experience in counselling. Freud called this the “talking Cure’ – it is also the ‘listening cure’. My training is psychodynamic, which means I work with the subconscious mind. Over the years I have also incorporated other approaches, so I can be practical and goal-focused where you need this.
My approach is gentle, supportive, understanding and realistic. The point is to put you back into the driving seat
Counselling is often essential in today’s world
True counselling requires considerable skill, subtlety and experience. It is not the same as talking to a friend, however kind and impartial that friend may be. Counselling may seem basic and simple. For you it is – you come to unburden yourself and learn to move on from what is bothering you. For me it is about noticing many things – sometimes seemingly insignificant – that may give a clearer picture. Today’s world can seem harsh and isolating. In a sense counselling carries on the tradition of the village wise-woman, but from a much wider and up-to-date perspective.
What counselling can give you
Counselling is not about telling you what to do or giving you specific direction on your major life choices – you will come to realise what you want. However, I may give advice on such matters as seeing another professional (e.g. a solicitor) or on such basic things as safety, for my code states that I must not withhold important information from you. Confidentiality is absolute – the only possible time I might breach this is if not doing so could lead to harm to others.
- Enable you to see things clearly
- Bring your problems into perspective
- Help you to understand yourself
- Give you the strength to make the changes you deem necessary
- Empower you
- Help you find your life’s true direction
- Heal you emotionally and spiritually
- Ease stress and anxiety
- Lift depression
- Help to restore your faith in life and yourself
Trust is very important when choosing a counsellor. This is not just about confidentiality – it also means that the power and control stays with you. I want to help you to connect with your true self, your needs, wishes, abilities and visions of your future.
Counselling can be one session, but the likelihood is that you will need more than this. Please phone me on 07833 752173 to speak about your wishes. If you get my voicemail please leave your contact details clearly, and I will get back to you. Alternatively, to book an appointment, call 07833 752173 or 01453 451425. Please don’t worry if you get the answering service – this is totally confidential, so please leave your number clearly and I will call you back. Alternatively, email me on firstname.lastname@example.org.
Teresa Moorey MA, RMANM, SQHP, Dip Health N. Bound by the BACP Code of Ethics
TAKE CHARGE OF YOUR LIFE IN 2019
At times most of us feel life is running away with us. In fact you may have that panicky feeling that you’re pretty much out of control. Calm down. There are ways for you to feel serene and stable. Find out about:
- Changing your inner landscape
- Be self-aware
- Follow your truth
- Be genuine and passionate
- Go with the flow
- Value yourself
EXTERNAL CONDITIONS CAN BE CHALLENGING
Of course you may be coping with a whole raft of problems connected with your job, money, where you live, health, relationships…the list goes on. In addition we are all bombarded daily with news of wars, crimes and economic hardship.
Record numbers of prescriptions are now being written for anxiety and depression. With modern media a whole world of misery arrives daily in our homes, while cultural pressures devalue spirituality, bringing the message that only the material is real. How can you find security with this all around?
CHANGE YOUR INTERNAL LANDSCAPE
Most of us live our lives from the outside in, influenced by external conditions, preoccupied with money, possessions and status. However, the wisdom traditions of the world take a different view. They teach a life path that comes from the inside out. Fostering inner peace and stability leads to a change of perspective, where love and light are the over-riding reality.
THE ROLE OF SELF-AWARENESS
Yes, the answer to ‘control’ lies indeed with self-awareness. Don’t be frustrated at the idea you have to change yourself, because that’s your route to real power. Your restless mind is pushed here and there by your ego. We all have an ego and, to a greater or lesser extent the ego is insecure. To ‘control’ this insecurity the ego looks for reassurance from enjoyment, satisfaction, support from others or a chance to shift any feeling of guilt.
Because of this there is no inner stillness. Even if you quiet your mind, concerns often sink to a subconscious level where they cause anxiety, depression and possibly physical symptoms. This may sound negative, but you do have choices – changing your consciousness will work all sorts of wonders.
Ask yourself, what is ‘real’? The world is composed of atoms, molecules, radiation and energies. It’s your wonderful mind that creates the world you see. Consciousness links the inner and outer worlds, so when you get control of your consciousness, then you truly control your life. You have a choice about how you perceive the world, and things change accordingly.
This sounds very mystical, but there are several practical things you can do, to help you shift into that state of consciousness and power.
FOLLOW YOUR OWN TRUTH
That is your truth, not the truth, which makes the assumption that there is something outside you that is Truth, with a capital ‘T’. Seeking Truth in some teaching or dogma is disempowering. Finding your truth is inspiring and liberating. So always ask yourself what feels right to you, and act accordingly.
HAVE A GENUINE ‘IMAGE’
Most of us give in to pressure at least some of the time, showing ourselves as others want to see us. Try to be aware if you’re doing this. Is it really worth the strain? Are the people who approve or get impressed really the ones who should be running your life? Not if you want to be in control. So be yourself, as far as you can be, and understand that ‘being yourself’ is a journey – it’s okay to explore and change.
BE PASSIONATE ABOUT PRIORITIES
What matters most in life? Don’t waste your passion on status, bling and climbing up the corporate ladder. Let the causes dearest to your heart light your fire and empower you from within – but always be genuine. The ideas of others may inspire you, but don’t swallow wholesale the views of another, no matter how clever they appear. It’s your views that matter.
GO DEEP WITHIN
Use meditation, path-working or some spiritual discipline to take you inside yourself, so you explore your own essence. Try to let go of assumptions – that experience of existing as an eternal, unique being will come to you. Once you achieve this, you will know you are powerful, and that power can never leave you. Whenever you come up against a challenging situation, use your self-awareness to gain insight – don’t act from assumptions or conditioning. Contact that wisdom deep within.
GO WITH THE FLOW
Striving to control and direct your life can be totally counter-productive. Much better to accept and let go. See where the flow takes you, rather than swimming against the tide. Relax, and take circumstances as you find them – that way you’ll spot opportunities and be in harmony. You will see that your wishes are backed up by something much bigger than your individual ego – call it Mother Nature, God/Goddess, the Cosmos or Spirit.
However you appear to the world – or think you appear – you are valuable and unique. Nurture a sense of self worth that relies on a spiritual perspective, not on what you’ve achieved, etc. When you love and value yourself you feel powerful and positive – definitely in control of what matters.